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I f Ethan Stables, the year-old man convicted on Monday of planning to kill attendees of a local gay pride event in Cumbriawas really bisexual as he claimed in court, why would he want to hurt other LGBT people?

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Many gay people know the most homophobic school bully often pops up in the local gay bar a few years later, but there are wider examples: But self-loathing can turn deadly. His ex-wife said she believed he was gay.

Research now shows how destructive shame can be.

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The Adverse Childhood Experience study led by Dr Vincent Felitti showed that the greater number of extreme negative experiences a child has, the greater the chance they will develop mental health problems in adulthood.

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Gay people are not the only ones to suffer such shame, but experts, both gay and straight, agree that gay kids are overwhelmed with it. Many of us grow up, come out and have wonderful and Signs youre hookup a closeted gay man lives. For others, the journey can be rockier. Just this week I met a young man who told me he hated gay pride, hated effeminate men but crucially was trying to work through these feelings by talking about them.

Perhaps Ethan Stables, who has an autistic spectrum disorder, was not able to have those conversations.

Most people grappling with shame do not join extremist groups and plan to hurt people. Perhaps like former notorious s neo- Nazi street fighter Nicky Cranewho also eventually came out as gay. Talking about gay shame and self-loathing is not easy.

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It flies in the face of the message of gay pride that has dominated the gay rights movement of the last 50 years. But we must talk about it. Most people wrestling with shame hurt themselves. Disproportionate numbers of LGBT people suffer with self-destructive behaviour. At the end of we lost George Michael after years of mental health and addiction struggles.

A year later, last November, year-old American rapper Lil Peep died from a fentanyl overdose months after he came out as bisexual. All in a year that saw the usual reports of unsupported LGBT teenagers killing themselves, such as a year-old in Stirling, after years of bullying, and a year-old girl whose life-support machine was turned off after doing the same. And so it goes on and on, without much awareness or enough being done to address the situation.

Wider society has never cared about the children who struggle to come to terms with who they are. I was 11 when I realised I was gay and I could not cope. I needed support and someone to talk to. But it seems perhaps the gay rights movement has been caught napping, too. It may not fit the narrative we wish to promote but there are huge numbers of people getting themselves into serious situations without enough support. But that is where the work lies.

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In Australia, the crisis support service Lifeline is 13 11 Other international suicide helplines can be found at www. Sexuality Mental health comment.

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