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T here were, says Cat, perhaps one or two male students on her English degree. How great to have so many clever, educated young women spilling out every year, but there could be negative consequences, as a new book, Date-onomicspoints out: But, as the business journalist Jon Birger relates in his book Date-onomics, if an educated woman wants to form a long-term partnership with a man of similar education, the numbers are stacked against her.

But it could just be a numbers game, she says though Birger will say these two things are linked. Birger had started noticing that he was around far more single women than men.

I wanted to figure out why. At first he thought it was just a big city problem — perhaps more educated women than men were drawn to New York, where he lives, or cities such as Los Angeles or London. The numbers are pretty much the same across the United States.

Across young people, age 30 and under, [there are] about four college grad women for every three college grad men. In many cases, this gender gap is even bigger in rural states than in urban ones. In the US, he writes that among to year-olds, there are 5.

We are seeing a gap in the UK too. Last year, a record number of women outnumbered menwith nearly 58, more women than men.

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He thinks one of the drivers of the so-called hook-up culture is the number of men who have found a wealth of available women to choose from.

She is mainly attracted to Oxbridge graduates, she says with a small laugh. That indicated there is a preference for similarity. There is very strong preference for similarities along a range of attributes, such as age, height, occupation, interests. The increasing prevalence and efficiency of online dating has also had an effect, says Birger, because of the Getting married after hookup less than a year tick-box nature of it or as Evan Marc Katza dating coach whose advice I like to read, warns: In the US, among people aged who do not have a college degree, there are 9.

So the dating world is just as hard for those blue collar guys. One of my bits of advice in the book is that I think we all need to open our hearts and minds to dating across socioeconomic lines. I refer to these as mixed-collar marriages. You see it much more in the African American community, where the gender disparity in college education is more extreme — you certainly see more educated women married to working-class guys.

There is also evidence to suggest that couples in which the woman is more educated than the man are happier.

One study of more than 1, interviews with couples found that in relationships where the woman was more educated than the man, they were more likely to stay together than in couples where both had low levels of education, or where it was the woman with the lower level. In the past, couples where the woman was better educated were more likely to divorce than other couples, but no more.

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Is this mostly down to changing attitudes? We can see from data from around the world that men are marrying women with more education than themselves.

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There seems to be a very tight relationship between changes in the gender gap in education and what happens to marriage and cohabitation patterns.

She cites a study by Marianne Bertrand of women who had higher incomes on average than men: However, Belot thinks women may be increasingly accepting of the fact that they may not meet the sort of partner they want and therefore choose to be alone: I think the question is more, do you have the opportunity to meet?

A study by the Pew Research Center think tank last year found that for the first time in Getting married after hookup less than a year US there were more couples in which the woman was more educated than her husband than the opposite. But there is still a stigma, says Genevieve Zawadawho runs a matchmaking service, particularly for women over Funnily enough, men hardly ever discuss it.

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