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Somewhere around 4 to 5 months into my most recent relationship I seriously considered breaking it off. The whole dynamic of me being the "spiritual one" and him not being spiritual -- well, at all -- just wasn't quite working for me.

How could we make it work when we couldn't see eye to eye? This decision of potentially ending this relationship made me quite distressed so I started discussing it with various coaches and counselors.

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Though this advice resonated with me on some level, it still didn't feel quite "right" to me. So I decided to do nothing and continued on with the relationship, despite continuing to feel troubled by this whole "I'm spiritual and he's not" thing. Then one day I was listening to a mentor of mine giving a talk about relationships and someone had told her, "I'm so frustrated.

My boyfriend isn't nearly as spiritual as me. All you can do is to do the spiritual work yourself, be the light and he will gradually come to his own understanding in his own way and on his own time. I was immediately skeptical.

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How on earth is that going to work? This guy wants to get into religious and spiritual debates with me. He isn't out to understand and accept -- he's only out to "win" his point. But despite these thoughts, there was a sense, a voice deep down in the core of my being that said, "Just do it and you'll see.

I stopped worry about him and started working on myself. I started meditating daily.

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I began reading more spiritual texts. I started to really implement the work into my life. I never once preached my beliefs to him or share with him anything that he didn't already express some interest or curiosity in.

And if he wanted to debate religion and spirituality I simply set a boundary stating that I didn't want to talk about it. Our love deepened and we somehow became more comfortable with each other and more in love than we were before.

Our relationship progressed to a whole new level. A level that neither one of us have ever experienced with another person before.

So how did I do it and how can you do it if you're in this situation as well? Here's a few tips:. Recognize that the whole "I'm right and you're wrong" mentality is nothing but your ego.

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If you see your partner getting into the whole "you're right I'm wrong" mentality, then set a boundary with them. Say something like, "Honey I love you, but because I love you I don't think we should be talking about this right now" and walk away or go in the other room.

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Like Gandhi said, "Be the change you want to see in the world. What is she doing for herself? Cause it seems to work. I better check this out. And if they don't, so what? It doesn't matter because all that matters at the end of the day is that you are being a channel for your own inner transformation -- and that makes all the difference.

In the comments below, share with me one thing that you are going to commit to doing on a regular basis so that you can be "the change you wish to see. Jennifer is a self and relationship coach and the founder of JenniferTwardowski. Her mission is to help women create loving relationships with both others and themselves.

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I have a confession to make. So I wanted to breakup. Be done with it. My mentor looked at her with her piercing brown eyes and said I just focused on myself and did my own thing. And over time, something amazing happened We started meditating together. We started going to yoga classes together.

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