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Why online hookup will never work

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Spring is around the corner and it makes one wonder when the lucky in love train will be arriving. With the change of seasons, singles are calling and writing in record numbers seeking help and guidance with an achy pain and frustrated feeling. They're swiping, smiling, flirting, and they're still single. They're wondering what they're doing wrong.

If you feel this way, know that Why online hookup will never work not alone. Just like you may do a spring cleaning of your wardrobe and check your medical health at the beginning of the season, it's also time for a digital checkup on the reasons why you're not successful with online dating, or any dating for that matter.

Roman philosopher Seneca said it best when he talked about luck. Just how prepared are you? How much effort are you willing to put towards the process to find love and keep love in your life? Are you waiting for fate to arrive, or are you willing to take matters into your own hands? These gripes and frustrations are coming from both men and women.

You see, we've all been there. I can tell you that we are coaching more men these days than women. Guys out there are are serious about finding love and having a meaningful relationship. They pay for a dating coach, they put the expense and effort into getting new photos taken, they're proactive, and are writing to ten women a day. They put the same effort into online dating to find a partner as they do in getting that promotion at work. They know it can take a moment, a day, a week, or a year.

They do the work and they don't complain about it, well not usually. As women, we are trained to wait for the man to find us. It's in our DNA.

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We don't search as often and we don't send ten emails Why online hookup will never work men every day. We don't respond first to that mutual match on a mobile dating app. That's too much male energy for us. We think about the guy who couldn't commit, we think about a potential date's height, income, our ex who found a younger girlfriend, and the boyfriend who cheated. There's so much negative thinking going on, that it's impossible to attract someone great.

Guys are guilty until proven innocent. These days, if you don't have a mobile dating strategy, you're pretty much not in the game. Not every swipe turns into a match. Not every match turns into a date. Not every date turns into your boyfriend. Not swiping means you just might be waiting and waiting.

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