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Dating for 8 months not a relationship

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You've been seeing this guy at least once a week for a few months now. You're both sushi aficionados, his big brown eyes make you melt, and he even laughs out loud at The Mindy Project.

It's great—except that you have no idea where things stand. He has yet to introduce you as his girlfriend or bring up being exclusive, and you're craving that "couple" title and the security that comes with it. Talk about blurred lines. However you can use these tips to subtly up the chances that he'll want to turn casual dating into something more. You think you desire something serious with this particular guy—but before you do anything else, be sure.

Step back and ask yourself the following questions, Trespicio suggests: Do I have fun with him? Is my mood elevated when I'm with him? Do I feel good about myself after we part ways? Does he improve my life? Do I feel respected? One thing to look out for: If he's acting extremely jealous or policing your every move, you need to really reevaluate things.

And never tell Dating for 8 months not a relationship, "He's a nice guy and has done nothing wrong, so I guess I should be with him. Be in a relationship where you feel good when you're without him, but you feel even better with him. It seems counterintuitive, but experts' No. Does he try to see you whenever he's free? Does he seem genuinely interested in what you have to say?

Does he "Dating for 8 months not a relationship" as much fun on dates as you do?

These are likely signs he's in it for real, so enjoy being with him and relax about making things "official. You don't have to stay in the dark forever, though. If it's been about six months and he hasn't dropped one hint about where he sees this going, casually speak up, says Jennifer Kelmana licensed social worker and relationship expert at Pearl. For example, if you'd like him to meet your parents, ask if he'd be up for going out to dinner with them, but let him know there's no harm if he's not quite ready for that yet.

Above all, keep the tone light and maintain open lines of communication. If you feel confident at this point that you want things to be serious, go ahead and tell him, Trespicio says.

But if he still doesn't respond when you bring it up again, it may be time to rethink the relationship. Spending Saturday morning in the soup kitchen or helping an elderly person carry his groceries may be all it takes to have him calling you girlfriend.

In a recent British study, people rated potential sexual partners to be more attractive for a long-term relationship if they had altruistic qualities.

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No need to sign up at the homeless shelter only to impress him. Little things in your everyday life, from buying coffee for the woman in line behind you to walking your neighbor's dog, count too. Make an effort to do these things on a regular basis, but also make sure you're showing your selfless side when you're with him. When you're a kind and gracious person, men and women are more likely to want to be around you—both consciously and subconsciously.

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