Big community funding update! December 25, What are the legal and social problems with dating someone that is underage for the record I live in Arizona. I met this girl who I see at least once a week she works for my mother.
I could tell right away that she liked me, and to be honest I thought she was very attractive, but I later found out about her age and decided that I shouldn't do anything about it.
That was about a month maybe a bit more ago. In that time she has been overt in expressing her desire for there to be some sort of relationship between us; hugging me when I come by, making me cookies, offering to make me dinner at her house, inviting me to places. All the while I would be as nice as I could without feeling like Dating under 18 was leading her on, letting Dating under 18 think there was something more there.
The last two weeks though I've been spending more time with her, I had lunch with her five times in the last two weeks at the deli where she works for my motherand I've come to the decision that I want to ask her out.
I'm very wary of her "Dating under 18" though. From what I can tell in Az the age of consent is 18 wikibut that would only apply if we were having sex.
You may not think this to be the truth, but I wouldn't let that happen, in the very, very rare chance that it came up. What I've decided to do is ask her out, but tell her I want to talk to one of her parents they are devoiced, and her dad is a cop and make sure they are alright with us dating, if "Dating under 18" it would stop right there.
For what it's worth her age does bother me, not that she's or I think she's a child, she's not. She's very mature graduated early from high school and going to be starting collage in fall ' It's more the number then anything else that gets me. My friends who are closer to the situation, as well as my mother are all in favor of me asking her out, but I wanted some unbiased opinions.
There's a reason such girls are known as "jailbait". You're taking major chances even if you don't end up in bed together.
You ask for opinions, so here's mine: Treat this babe like kryptonite. Handle only with lead-lined gloves, and stay the hell away from her. Den Beste at I wanted some unbiased opinions My opinion is that your plan is a bad idea and you should not ask her out nor try to date her in any way until she turns You may be blinding yourself to this because you're close to the situation, but this is socially taboo in the extreme.
Many people will think less of you and her if you persue this. They probably already do. Her dad being a cop just makes the situation all the more absurd. Stay friends until she's If her parents are ok with it, and your parents and friends already are, then that's everyone that matters. You'll get crap from other people if the age discrepancy "Dating under 18" apparent, but from the sound of it, it isn't.
Take her up on some of those invitations to dinner, so you meet the parents. Make a good impression. I was dating a 17 year old at 21, everyone Dating under 18 it was great, no-one outside of the few of us even realised there was an age difference.
Just back away as nicely as you can. Forget the taboo factor, her daddy's a cop. You could be as gentlemanly as is humanly possible, and he could still ruin your life. Any daddy can claim a false statutory rape, but a cop is going to have a better chance of making it stick. That would give you a criminal record featuring sex with a minor. Furthermore, there's a slim chance you'd wind up on the Sex Offender Registry. Be kind to her, of course - she may be a "very mature" 16, but she's still None of the logic behind this may matter to her.
If this is love, true and deep, waiting a few years is nothing. Consider it a test of the heart. That way, once she's 18, you'll be much more free to do as you please. Also, not advice, just random thoughts - after her parents have met you, what about telling her you'd like to ask her out, but feel a bit odd about the age difference, ask her what she thinks.
See what she says. Once she knows your interested, assuming she wants Dating under 18 to happen, then she might be your best ally in presenting it to her parents.
Perhaps "dad, I'd like to date this friend of mine" might work better than "Mr XYZ, I'd like to date your underage daughter". I don't know, Dating under 18 throwing something out. I see no problem with it, particularly if she's mature for her age But I think it depends though Dating under 18 the state though in terms of a sexual relationship do your homework if you become romantically involved posted by DudeAsInCool at Also, waiting until she's in collage might be a good idea - it's not long, and a lot of highschool taboo doesn't apply anymore.
Reading Jilder's comment - yeah - make sure you're comfortable with the parents Dating under 18 well as they you. Think "what could happen if I break her heart".
Socially, you're much better off waiting until she's started college. Right now you'd be a twenty one year old guy dating a girl in high school -- doesn't matter how you dress that up, it still comes out looking really really bad. It's a shame that arbitrary laws criminalize what could be otherwise fulfilling relations between two people.
C'est la vie in your particular jurisdiction. As others have said, you could pursue a friendship and bide your time before getting romantically involved, but be prepared for some tests of character. Well age of consent is a very arbitrary concept. Why are teens in Arizona assumed to be less mature than teens in Ohio? It doesn't make any sense. Besides, social conventions and practices are not necessarily tied to the legal age of consent.