Ok, please don't judge me. I just want to vent and maybe get some advice from someone in a similar situation. My husband and I met 6 years ago when we were in HS. We got married when I was 19 and he was That was only 2. We have a 16 month old son.
I love my husband, but I am so bored in this relationship right now. It's been like this for awhile. That doesn't seem normal to me.
He works a lot which I appreciate, because he is providing for his familybut by the time he gets home, I'm asleep and he's tired. There is NO romance in our lives.
He doesn't look at me the way he used to and I don't feel like I'm beautiful when I'm around him. When I talk to him, he just looks at the TV or looks "through" me.
I know he loves me too, and I know nothing is going on behind my back. I think we've just gotten lazy which sucks since our marriage is so new and we have a lifetime left with each other. Ok, so my friend and I had a girl's night on Saturday and we went to a bar to just dance and hang out. We started dancing with these guys she has a BF too and they bought us drinks.
We danced together for like 2 hours and I felt a lot of chemistry. He kept telling me how beautiful I was and how my eyes Bored with husband already dating so pretty. At first I though it was just BS and just some guy looking for someone to take home, but then I realized he was being sincere.
He kissed me on my neck which was awesome Bored with husband already dating it had been 3 weeks since my husband and I had been together. But I never kissed him back At the end of the night, he asked for my number and I said no, I don't give out my number.
He insisted on giving me his number, so I put it in my phone. My son is on the screen saver and I made a point of having him see the picture, hoping it would scare him off, but it didn't I know, I'm a chicken. The next morning, I was on my way to pick up my son from my mom's house and I decided to text this guy.
I know, stupid idea. So we texted back and forth a bit. I get butterflies every time I think about how Bored with husband already dating fun I had that night. He called me this evening and told me how good it was to hear my voice and how beautiful I was again. He even asked how my son was.
Then he said that he wanted to get together on Saturday again if that was ok. I told him that I wasn't looking to get attached and that I "Bored with husband already dating" enjoyed meeting him.
He said that he understands and to call him if I change my mind and that he's "sure we'll see each other again. And I know I don't even know him, but I feel like I'm missing out on something with him I don't feel good about this and I know that if my husband did the same thing, I would kill him. But I'm so bored and frustrated with this relationship and would love to see this guy again which makes me feel like an awful person. Sorry this is SO long, thanks for reading all of this.
How do we put the spark back so I stop thinking about this guy that I don't even know? I feel really guilty that I can't stop thinking about him? All marriages go through the occasional "lag" phases. I know how exciting new chemistry can be,but you need to ask yourself if it is worth losing what you have with your husband.
Valentines weekend is coming up, maybe you could get a babysitter and plan something special for the 2 of you and see if Bored with husband already dating can renew that old spark!!
Thanks, I know it's not worth losing what we do have, that's Bored with husband already dating this stupid thing is so frustrating. It's just so discouraging because I try to keep things fresh and I don't feel like he's returning the effort. Unfortunately, I think he works on Valentine's Day.