So, my darling, this article is for you if you Shes dating a douchebag yourself why you only seem to be attracted to men that are bad boys or a "douchebags" that always end up hurting you.
I have dealt with this topic so often that I am now an expert on "the douchebag. And it breaks my heart every time another woman is crying her eyes out to me after being screwed over by this type of man.
Now, just to be clear, women can be douchebags too. A douchebag is someone who treats people badly. You are one Shes dating a douchebag them, after all. After years of therapy and then in my training to become a therapist myself, I found the answer most of the time lies in your childhood and your subconscious.
We learn what love is from our home environments and in relationships, we gravitate towards the familiar. Our unconscious minds cause us to seek out emotional situations that resemble our childhood circumstances or first romantic relationships, regardless of whether those experiences were negative or positive.
Here is a little equation to show how it works. If home was drama, you may attract partners that have addictions, crazy issues and lots of dramas.
If home was lonely and unkind, you may attract partners that ignore, withhold affection or criticize you. If home was fearful, you may attract partners that are emotionally or physically abusive.
For you, it may feel like love to be uncomfortable in a relationship. In your subconscious, love and therefore sexual attraction is equated with the negative feelings that you grew up with.