I'm just coming out of a deliberate dating-hiatus. I've spent the last two months not dating at all. I've been licking some compassion-deserving, emotional wounds and listening to the sage advice they had to teach me.
It was a time of healing. I set the intention to curl up in the lap of my sadness and let it speak its wisdom.
These wounds held stories. They told me about limiting beliefs I've clung onto about love, about myself and about what I'm still afraid of. By allowing myself the time to sit with these thoughts and feelings, I am able to see myself more clearly. I knew I needed time to process through them in order to get this clarity. I needed silence Taking a long break from dating lack of distraction to fully explore the reflection the mirror my last relationship was holding for me so that I can enter my next one without carrying old patterns with me.
When we see our experiences with others, both positive and negativeas a way to learn more about ourselves, we always have new lessons to learn about ourselves and the roots of our behaviors and habits of thinking. I knew that if I jumped from one relationship straight into another, I wouldn't have seen what I needed to in myself in order to attract the kind of person I'm looking for.
When we get clearer about our deeper self, we attract different kinds of people. The shift reflects the inner clarity we've gained because we look for love with openness and awareness. And one of the most powerful ways to get clearer about this part of ourselves is to look at our reactions to our partner in our last relationship.