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What does metrosexual mean? Is your ringtone from Kimpossible?
Those are givens, sure, but it goes a bit deeper. And so it was started. The idea that a guy can care about fashion, be concerned about his appearance, and not be gay, and that we should be okay with that. Simpson and I disagree on what it means to be metro. One conflict revolves around the ideas of consumerism and narcissism. Metro is about looking good, and many people who are metro are likely narcissistic, but you Whats a heterosexual man have one without the other.
I, for example, believe that my metrosexuality is rooted in insecurities in my appearance. That, and the love-handles I boasted as a kid read: But Simpson argues that a metro male likely falls into one of two categories of narcissism: The latter certainly applies to me, as I hope to find peace and love with my appearance someday, in that after-school-special, psychologically-healthy kind of way, but I would think that to be the case with most everyone, metro or non.
The one thing you can say that applies to Whats a heterosexual man metrosexuals out there is that we are a well-groomed bunch. We like to look our best. We present ourselves well.
This is derived from many areas: This is my biggest issue with the Wikipedia entry, and with the history of the word. This is problematic because the well-groomed well-dressed gay man is a positive stereotype, but a stereotype nonetheless, and even positive stereotypes are potentially harmful.
We are taught to assume particular roles in society and express ourselves in certain ways based on our biological sex. Men like working in the mud, getting dirty. But do you know how hard it is for me to say that? "Whats a heterosexual man" makes many people uncomfortable to hear about a guy who takes more time to get ready to go to dinner than his sisters do. Men can want to look good in jeans, too. And straight men and gay men and bi- men can all wait in line for a fitting room with a, and inch pair of jeans, hoping they fit the 32, knowing they should probably by the 34, and only holding the 30 the Whats a heterosexual man way someone orders a diet coke with their whopper: Gay men can be metrosexual, too.
Define these things for yourself, in your own terms, and it will give you a better sense of where you stand. Are you okay with gender roles dissipating? Until we all can, terms like metrosexual are helpful in making sense of things. I am a metrosexual male. I always have been, and I likely always will be.
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It's just like this website, but instead of being made out of code, it's made out of murdered trees. Then you'll appreciate this book I co-authored it with Meg Bolger. It's called Unlocking the Magic of Facilitation: Metrosexual [equals sign] Well-Groomed The one thing you can say that applies to all metrosexuals out there is that we are a well-groomed bunch.
Metro is about gender.