One of the primary issues here is that for Chinese women, there is a much stronger emphasis on getting married early. This goes back to less stable times, when marriage meant much-needed security, but of course this is by no means a purely Chinese phenomenon: China is relatively new to the whole modern-stable-globalized-internet still working on that last one, really country thing, and when your culture is over 4, years in the making, old habits die hard.
Consider, too, the generational issue at play here: That's because her grandparents' and possibly depending on where in China she is from her parents still value marital stability above all else in their time, given the instability and volatility of their eras.
In fact, I once dated a girl who would only meet up at places that her parents AND grandmother had pre-approved; as you can imagine none of these places were very fun. What this often leads to is heavy parental involvement in relationships and dating. This particular cultural difference, is, in my experience, a big reason so many intercultural relationships fail; I know one girl I met texted me five times before lunch the next day — a serious no-no for me but standard procedure for her.
The man is generally supposed to handle all the decision making in Chinese dating, and some girls take this very seriously.
Once I asked a girl what she wanted to do for the date and she just never responded! Anyway, all of this means that in China itself, if you're dating someone seriously, marriage is at least on the table.
As a result, being intimate before marriage is a lot less common in China than in the West, though this is not so much the case anymore among younger, more urbanized Chinese.
For men, things overall are not as strict: That said, additional stresses do exist. Understanding this, more than anything else, is the key to a successful Chinese dating experience. Now that you know a little about dating culture in China, take a look at what Chinese people have to say about their ideal romantic partners.
These lessons from Yoyo Chinese's Intermediate Course features interviews with people on the streets of China. Following these brief interviews, Yangyang breaks down the important language points found in their answers. What Kind of Girls do you Like? Your Least Favorite Kind of Men. Your Least Favorite Kind of Women.
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Click here to Log in. Yoyo Chinese Official Blog. Marriage Mania One of the primary issues here is that for Chinese women, there is a much stronger emphasis on getting married early.
Dating Etiquette Even the nuts-and-bolts process of dating can be wildly different in China. Not So Casual Anyway, all of this means that in China itself, if you're dating someone seriously, marriage is at least on the table.
Supplementary Materials Now that you know a little about dating culture in China, take a look at what Chinese people have to say about their ideal romantic partners. Dream Guys U nit How Chinese People Actually Speak. Why do non-Chinese people feel that Chinese is difficult to learn?
So we've gotten a few questions lately about dating in China.