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How to make good dating decisions

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In an era that prioritizes dating for fun over dating for commitment, finding a marriage partner can feel like an impossible task. How does a shy girl even begin to date?

No matter how insurmountable those social hurdles seem at times, even timid ladies can grab coffee, fall in love, and get married. We asked Nancy Pina, a Christian relationship counselor based in Houston, Texas, for five dating tips every shy girl must know.

Pina suggests developing your personal interests and spiritual life before pursuing a mate.

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That means rather than take action, these shy women hang back and watch to see if the perfect guy enters stage right. Pina explains that many people face a dating dilemma once they graduate from college and are no longer surrounded by their peers. They enter the workplace and fall into a pattern that makes it difficult to meet new people. Even if you go to a social function and think nobody there is a good match, Pina suggests keeping an open mind: Everybody wants to be the matchmaker. All of those hobbies and interests you spent time cultivating in your youth?

So get extra mileage out of them How to make good dating decisions joining clubs, going on trips, taking classes, and following through on your hobbies in new ways that allow you to meet new men you might want to date. It also helps alleviate some of that shyness you might have in a [traditional] social setting.

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Then set up casual coffee dates with people you like. And coffee dates are ideal because they provide a small window of time in a casual setting. It makes it easy to look for men without trying to scout them out at a party from behind your wine glass.

You can be the first one to reach out, too. It might make you nervous, but think how much easier it is to write a message than to walk up to a stranger and strike up a conversation. There are millions of profiles. Shy girls sometimes sign up for dating sites, and find someone they click with, but then never take the dates How to make good dating decisions. If it helps, mentally prepare what topics you love to talk about before arriving at your date.

And, if you can, leave something to talk about at the next date. The real key here is to put yourself at ease.

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