This rainbow of emotions that you have has no problem with telling the world, with a daily dose of updated facebook statuses, of how unique and special this love truly is. At first Real women marry cops feels like a cute novelty that makes you gush with pride around your family and friends. You proudly display your handsome or lovely in a full uniform photo anywhere you think people might see it.
When it comes to marriage, cops really need no help at all from the citizens they serve. Oh, and before you square pegs start touting how wonderful your cop marriage is, you are an anomaly. You can continue on with your wonderful life full of unicorns and sandy beaches.
Many cops tell me that, as they spend more time on the job, they become even more detached from their spouse which in turn only drives a wedge that can become something worse over time. What really gets cops into trouble is when they completely withdraw from their spouse or worse, start playing video games or binge watch Netflix on both their days off.
On a beautiful sunny Saturday, you and the loved one have planned on spending the day together on his birthday.
All the plans are in place when he gets a call. The crazy long hours and unpredictable schedule also makes him display his ugly side.
It had only been five minutes after arriving home that my phone rang and I was called in for another homicide. Also, cops work a lot of holidays. Nothing says wedded bliss like spending Thanksgiving and Christmas by yourself. Up until this point in the article, I have shown only the outside forces that are in play with my argument. The elephant in the room, however, are some of the decisions that cops make when it comes to relationships. Cops are always doling out solutions that involve everything from citing case law to acting as Real women marry cops social workers in their jobs.
For the most part, those that listen to the advice of a cop would not only better themselves but better their situation.
We refuse to seek help when we obviously need it and we have this unnatural inkling to believe that we are always right.
I challenge all of you reading this article to be better spouses and not neglect the ones who truly love you. Been married to mine for 5 yrs with him for 9 almost I knew what I was getting into.
You have to be understanding and patient to be a leow!!! You also have to be independent and a leader!!! Give them space when they need it trust me you know when it happensand love during every moment you can.
Focus Real women marry cops the good, not the bad!!! You have just been voted most positive. Thank you for your wisdom and guidance. I have been married to my LEO for 4 years and together for 9. It is not an easy life but as long as we both keep fighting for our marriage it will work. You do require an independence being married to a LEO! Oh goodness it has made me more independent and a stronger person. I would not change it for anything! I have married to my high scool sweet heart for 14 years.
Over time he started to change but i still sounded like you ladies because Im the positive wofe who cultivates a warm loving hime life with a smike on my face like a good LEOW does….
Im trying for us to repair bow but I just dont know because ike the last part of the article says, he wont get help or try to talk things out. Rule 1 Driver picks the radio station. Keep your eyes open and your mouth shut. Go home at the end of shift safe and sound. Hugh, Real women marry cops, when you put it like that, there was no real reason for me to write the article. I am glad both of you have all of this figured out.
I can attest to the lousy shifts and days off…Too many temptations Real women marry cops there. Still working on showing my emotions and talking with Hunny Bunny.
I remember one in and another one in My anniversary is coming up soon, 7 months of not getting laid. This is so true! But before we got married, we had this conversation, of marrying a "Real women marry cops" and status quo of there being failed marriages because of the job. And I decided it was worth the risk!
Thankfully, we celebrated 24 years yesterday! And par for the course, he was called out yesterday! Jo, you are an inspiration to us all that, despite the odds, you did the dumb thing and married a cop and are brave enough to admit it.
Well written and accurate. I left homicide because it was just too all consuming. I think being an employee of the department helps. So far it works!
This is a great article. I was married 25years when my cop husband left me for a ER nurse 20 years younger. I just hope someday he realizes the destruction he really caused and was it really worth it. Meaning, he Real women marry cops to tag a 20 year younger nurse and all I get is this stupid blog. Because if you do you slept with his boss and your boss and you should have turned it down out of respect for him. The last 14 of the best and worse of my life.
Was a cop myself.
Married my Sargent, who voluntarily demoted himself so we could be together. We celebrated 17 years in April. I know being able to talk to someone who gets the job helped him tremendously. Excellent article and a very important subject to discuss.